11/26/11-11/27/11—Giving Up The Fight

Weekend Reading: Five of Feathers from the Margarete Petersen deck. This is a card of fighting in vain. Maybe you're the one in the right. Maybe you have every right to ask for what you're asking for. And maybe you can be very stubborn when you want to, too. But you're fighting in vain. The other side's not going to give. Probably because you want them to be someone other than who they are. Whether you're expecting a wrong person to admit their wrongs, a non-believer to believe or an angry person to start purring like a kitty, it's just not going to happen. People are who they are. And if we can't hold a place for them in our lives as they are, then we need to move on. The only person you can change is yourself. So if you want something to change, try changing the way you respond to the person. Try something other than force and argument and righteousness. And keep in mind, if they're not *asking* for help, then you can't help them. Because as right as your position may be, trying to make someone change who they are—and the path their soul is here to walk—is just wrong.